Vermilion

This is also the title of a Slipknot song which had a melodic sequel. This article (which won’t have a sequel) is about a regularly red-haired show-woman named Lily Cade.



Saturday, May 29, 2010 (22:49)…


I’ve met a lot of girls/people who got into porn to represent something (i.e. queer sexuality or the eroticism of different kinds of bodies). Money’s great but if you’re only in this for the money, there are definitely better jobs. You know how they say “Do what you love”? Well, I think it’s like that. I was a Dominatrix at a dungeon but I really didn’t like dealing with the clients especially the flakey ones.



Thursday, December 27, 2012 (11:30)…


I actually came here before I was in porn to ask about being in porn, but I had a different username and I can’t find those posts. Anyway…I’ve worked with so many performers that I liked. I think one of my strengths as a performer is my ability to connect with others (and the fact that I really know what I’m doing with women’s bodies). I’m pretty versatile in my tastes, but I like women who are game.



Monday, December 31 (20:18)…


I’ve known Laurel Norton since we were little kids. Our moms were friends. We didn’t see each other for a long time, then randomly ended up at the same college. She took an art class with my wife (then girlfriend), I saw her name on something and was like whoa. The three of us dated as a threesome for a while in 2010 – during this time Laurel and I shot a number of scenes together. Laurel still lives with me and my wife (as housemates). Belladonna is awesome, and someone I’ve wanted to work for since I got into porn but that hasn’t happened for me.



Sunday, April 21, 2013 (21:47)…


Interestingly, one of the main questions I get from civilian women who meet me at a party or something is “What do you do when you’re on your period?” I love sponges, and I love not bleeding on people, and I’ll never go back…but I think it’s dumb that no one will process billing for menstrual fetish.



Monday, May 20 (22:11)…


The scene with me and Nina Hartley was filmed this week, and it was awesome. I’m generally not into women older than myself, but Nina has great energy, and she made me feel really desired. I’d had a run of mediocre scenes before that, scenes where I was doing the other girl’s job for her as well as my own. Working with someone else who is genuinely into me, knows positions, knows how to communicate…that was great. I left set with a big smile.



Thursday, May 23 (21:26)…


I’m mostly a top, but not entirely. Even on camera, I like girls who are fierce. I’m not into bottoming for femmes, though, which is 99% of women in porn. I’ve been married to the same woman the entire time I’ve been in the business, so dating and dealing with all that stuff isn’t something I do. My wife is a cam op and web designer (I know, I know, I’m married to my webmaster…it doesn’t get more porno than that).



Tuesday, May 28 (12:03)…


I don’t consider myself queer, and I’m absolutely not about judging my scene partners on whether on not they have enough street cred or whatever. I have junked scenes I’ve shot for my site before, where the other girl was just not there, going through the motions, being fake…but I’ll keep the scene if I manage to get through to her and get her to be real with me because I love seeing that moment where the wall breaks – “Oh my god, what did you do to me?” I love that.



I banged a lot of “straight” girls before porn. I’ve had good sex with straight women and awful sex with lesbians. Sexual identity does not equal good at sex, good with people, or much of anything. The girls that I have the best connections with aren’t always the gayest ones. When I first got into porn, I was told by some people that I looked “too gay” for girl/girl porn, and I did have one incident where a performer got mad at me for being “too into it”, which I wasn’t. She clearly didn’t want to be there. I was pouring out my energy and getting nothing back, so I doubled down with the intensity to try to make the scene happen.



I tried every trick in my arsenal to get her to be present, and she just wasn’t having it. She just made the same noise at intervals, and attempts to communicate in scene led to her dropping the act and talking shop. “Do you like this baby?” “What? oh, yeah, that is ok. How much longer?” I felt like a molester, she was irritated at me, and it just did not work. Total mismatch of performance styles. This girl’s agent also told me that I had to be a good performer because I wasn’t hot.



Friday, May 31, 18:48…


I shot the movie (5 scenes) and Girlfriends never put it out. I assume they still have the content but don’t want to release it. I used real life couples, and none of the pairings were two models together.



Sunday, June 16, 22:50…


Of course, porn stars have lesbian sex off camera. I’ve done girls who I’ve never shot scenes with. Generally not because of anything to do with contracts, but because they want to. Remember that we all socialize with each other. Talent with talent without a camera in the room is like an everyday thing.



Wednesday, June 19, 13:06…


I can only really speak with authority about myself, but porn years are like dog years and I’ve been to my share of parties where porn people hooked up with each other. Guys, girls, whatever. You’ve got this small community of people who have a very relaxed attitude towards sex. Mix that with booze and down time, what do you expect? I’ve had my share of colleagues in the VIP area of some nightclub/BBQ. Sure, if you happened to be around, you’d see it. Sure, I’d let a civilian watch – for money. No money? No way. We don’t get paid for sex so much as we get paid for making a product for consumption.



The consumption aspect, that’s key. If it’s filmed, it’s porn, and it’s either out there or sold to some customs client or shot for a company that folded and lost to time. This is a business. Nobody who gets up every or most days to go to set to fuck on camera is going to make sex tapes at home and then not monetize them anymore than someone who works at WalMart as a greeter is so to go in on Sundays just to say hi to people at the door of WalMart. No matter how much they like being friendly or we like fucking. 



Thursday, December 19, 13:34…


Depo is a high dose of progesterone that often, but not always, results in the cessation of menstruation. Depo is kind of an outdated method that is only used by something like 3 percent of American women. In general, the trend in the Western world has been away from high dose contraceptives toward lower dose contraceptives – time release things like Mirena or Norplant for example. Depo has a black box warning because it causes bone loss. You can’t just say this is a better birth control method because porn chicks won’t remember to take a pill every day.


No method of birth control is right for everyone. I know boy/girl performers who are on birth control pills, have IUDs, have implants, and who don’t use any kind of hormonal contraceptives (i.e. the “I don’t do cream pies” method). Anyway, most women in porn bleed sometimes, and we definitely use sponges when that happens, and we definitely stop if there’s blood, clean it up, keep going and don’t include the blood in the final edit.


Friday, January 17, 2014 (21:08)…


I go by Lily Cade all the time, in everything I do. Whether I’m doing porn or assisting the directing of a music video, I use the same name. I call most girls by their porn names, with exceptions for certain close friends or girls who don’t really see their stage names as their names. A lot of times, when a girl is super new, she’ll introduce herself by both names but most of the veterans don’t bother with the legal name except on releases.



Saturday, January 25, 14:40…


I have an awkwardly placed birthday on the porno calendar, always right after AVN and the same week as Xbiz.



14:48…


I’ve actually shot a scene with Skin Diamond for Girlfriends Films…but as far as I know it never came out.



 

Monday, March 10, 12:50…


Girl/girl is more “improvised” than boy/girl. Usually a boy/girl set, with the exception of some amateur content, the positions are mapped out, they take breaks, they cut and shoot stills, etc. With strap-on scenes I’ll kind of test the positions in stills to make sure we’re both on the same page and can handle said positions (standing stuff, picking up the girl), but there’s nobody who is going to call a cut if I do the wrong one.



Saturday, April 19, 6:28…


Annabelle Lee. I’ve had a lot of good sex with a lot of hot women, but as far as just tongue skills go it’s her. I am good, but of the porn girls who’ve gone down on me, it’s Annabelle.



Wednesday, April 30, 20:17…


I don’t always want to be comfortable. Sometimes gross or difficult or weird things feel great. Dirty sex, or sex with an air of danger, or sex that shows off my athleticism and flexibility as a performer (watch Bella Bends eat me out while I hold a yoga bridge) is better in other ways.



Thursday, May 1, 19:16…


I’m not really a fetish performer as much as I am a sex performer. I love rough sex and intense sex and dirty stuff. I’m more of a pervert than a kinkster if that makes sense. I watch soooooo much porn in the editing room, I don’t have a lot of motivation to watch porn. I also don’t masturbate. But I do like to keep up with what other people are doing, to at least be aware of what’s going on. I think the Elegant Angel features, like Wasteland, were innovative. I think Mason and Dana Vespoli are both good.



Sunday, May 4, 17:56…


Even when I’m soft, I am the one who makes the position changes happen, who sets the tone and pace of the scene. As a genuinely lesbian top, I’m somewhere in between a male and female performer in the ways that I’m utilized – I’m less the main attraction in a lot of my scenes. I’m there to showcase my scene partner and put her through her paces. It’s my sexual energy that I’m hired for, not just my body. Sometimes I stay fully clothed in a uniform or something.



Tuesday, May 6, 14:48…


As a man, you grow up with people supporting your “I like women, not men” sexuality. As a gay woman, you don’t. Imagine that every single day of your life, gay dudes tried to talk you out of your sexual orientation. I’ve stood against a tide of that my entire life, and so have most lesbians. I’ve “asked for it” to some extent by putting myself on display. It doesn’t exactly offend me when dudes ask me for the fourth time in one day and the 7 millionth time in my life. It’s just sort of tiresome.



Wednesday, May 7, 15:52…


As far as bi girls who call themselves lesbians…I feel like, other than in porn where girls do it for marketing reasons, this is falling by the wayside. Mostly these kinds of gals just call themselves queer now.



Tuesday, June 17, 14:18…


Wow, so I just spent the last four days engaged in an all out WAR on Twitter based on my “refusal” to hire a transsexual woman WITH A PENIS to be in my girl/girl porn. The world is a strange place. This isn’t something I ever expected to happen.



Tuesday, July 29, 11:33…


In most jobs, being good at social interactions is crucial, and porn is no exception. A porn star has to be able to manage her fanbase too – the more popular she is, the more likely she is to get hired, and for better projects. There is sort of an inverse relationship between how traditionally pretty someone is and the extent to which she has to be a genuinely good performer in order to work. The less you fit a standard model, the more crucial it is to be a good performer. Someone like Bonnie Rotten – or myself for that matter – would never have been able to sustain a career being low energy.



Thursday, September 11, 17:35…


I went to Catholic school, and knew girls who were devotees of the “anything but that” school of technical “virginity” preservation.


Saturday, September 13, 21:01…


Sure, if you’re actually paying attention, anal sex is worse…but “don’t have sex before marriage” gets stressed a lot more than the various rules about sex within marriage. Taking it up to the butt to preserve your virginity? It’s based on justification namely that only intercourse counts as sex), not a careful study of theology.



Saturday, January 3, 2015 (23:56)…


I’m a lesbian, and my jam is hardcore…not modeling on video, not pretty disinterested girls pawing at each other. I understand how to pair girls – because I’m one of the only directors of girl/girl who really has lesbian sex. It’s the only kind of sex I’ve ever had. If you like story stuff, check out my features from Filly Films.


Tuesday, February 24, 16:56…


As far as active talent on the L.A. side goes, I’m really the only lesbian. Nikki’s gay off camera, but ok with guys enough to do it for money. She’s not the first that’s made that bargain, in porn or otherwise. You can see some other real lesbians in my work. My girlfriend, Jess Gatsby, is gay. My previous girlfriend, Laurel Norton, was gay. Sloppy kissing, though, that’s not my jam. I love kissing, but that’s not the way I love it. I want to feel her tongue in my mouth and mine in hers, but there’s an art to it.


Wednesday, February 25, 12:20…


Boy/girl pays more and there’s more of it on offer. I’ve turned down a STUPID amount of money for it (although the stupidest money I turned down was for off-camera boy/girl). My right hand is my major sex organ. I like oral sex, but the hand is both more human and more dextrous, and if you want to FUCK, hard, it’s hands not mouths that can accomplish that.



The camera guy was not used to performers like me, and was trying to tell me how to run a scene. He said “With girl/girl, you run out of things to do. It can get a little boring.” I was kind of floored, but I just turned around and growled at him “I got this, honey. Roll the damn camera.” At some point, he had to go change a lens. I told her “It’s not about him, and it’s not about the boys at home, it’s about you.” I wanted her. She wanted me. We didn’t exactly run out of things to do.



16:19…


I think I took all those 80s/90s kids’ movies to heart. I am very much myself. Sometimes to my detriment, but I’m the one who has to live with me for the rest of my life.


Monday, April 13, 1:20…


I don’t want to see girls pretend to have sex. I want to see women fuck. I like strap-ons, but not vibrators or other toys.


Tuesday, April 14, 23:30…


The recipient of the anal strap-on is Dolly Leigh, playing “Annabelle Irons” (the Anastasia Steele character).


Friday, July 24, 00:45…


I need some help with casting my follow-up to Ms. Grey. I’m looking for suggestions: 1) My main supervillain. Ideally brunette, I need a girl who can act, top a girl/girl scene, and engage in back and forth kinky sex with yours truly. 2) Two “bionic step-sisters” henchmen of my main villain. I want dirty spinners. Who are the girls you guys like right now in this category? Who are the new girls who like it nasty?


Monday, April 6, 2016 (12:29)…


One on one “while my boyfriend watches” is a different story. If he pays me, it’s great. We’re putting on a private show. The vibe is similar to a porn shoot with an amateur girl. If I’m not being paid, one dude isn’t enough of an audience for me. I’m not looking to be the unpaid prop in some couple’s relationship spice up. I want her to let go with me, not be thinking about her man’s feelings or whatever.



Tuesday, March 8, 16:26…


I didn’t even sex for Money Talks. I just flashed my tits on the Venice Boardwalk.



Thursday, August 11, 22:47…


At the dawn of Eva Lovia’s career, I shot a custom video with her that was focused on me licking/worshiping her ass. She’s a stunning girl, and really sweet. She told me I gave her her first on camera orgasm. It’s on the hard-drive of one lucky pervert. I wish he’d shared it. 😉



Sunday, September 10, 2017, (6:09)…


Back in the day, when porn was still the Wild West, they’d bring in couples and if the guy couldn’t hack it, offer some valley stunt cock (sometimes the camera guy) to complete the scene. I can’t help you with the titles, because I never actually watched this stuff, just ran with people who’d experienced it.



Saturday, September 16, 15:03…


They test for 7 pathogens but there are dozens of communicable diseases that go around the business – staph infections, fungal infections, B.V. (which is more from unsanitary/too much sex than directly passed between people) phimosis, various strains of HPV, herpes, etc. Sooner or later, you’ll catch something. When a civilian gets an STI, it might takes months to find out. An active performer finds out within a few weeks. Some people are more susceptible than others. I was insulated from the worst of it because of being only girl/girl on and off camera. On the one hand, I might catch staph from a vile porn couch.


She is in Electric Six’s video for Body Shot. As a way of coming full circle to the first paragraph, one of the guitarists in Slipknot has spoken about being a fan of the band.
Advertisements