Hayley Doherty is an English character actress who is also a member of a dating site called OkCupid. She has been in Peaky Blinders, Silent Witness, Coronation Street and The Bill. As I was reading her explanations of answers to the site’s survey, I realized that I was essentially reading an interview. For your reading pleasure…
Would you ever date someone who depended on their parents’ money?
Yes “… but I think it’s important to be able to support yourself.”
Choose the better romantic activity – kissing in paris or in a tent in the woods?
Kissing in Paris “Corny, I know, but we can go back to the tent later!”
Do you like scary movies?
No “But they’re not so bad if someone’s there to protect me from the zombies!”
Are you looking for a partner to have children with?
Yes “I’d like to have a family – adoption is definitely an option.”
If you were to die, would whoever goes through your personal belongings be shocked by what they find?
Maybe a little bit. “Depends who was looking through my stuff!”
How do you feel about falling in love?
I love it and want it very much “…but I’ll wait for the right person.”
Does the idea of flipping a coin to make important life decisions appeal to you?
Yes “I did a Radio 4 play and my character lived her life by the toss of a coin. It was fun for a while, but ended in horrible death, so I’ll take that as a warning and stay away from the coins!”
How much does physical attractiveness matter to you in a match?
A lot “Not necessarily conventional attractiveness – but I need to find them attractive!”
Would you consider dating someone whose religion or spirituality is the primary focus in their life?
Yes “Spirituality yes, religion no.”
How important to you is being with family during holidays?
Not important. “My family are important to me, but the holidays aren’t sacred. I can see them any time!”
Would you prefer the lights on or off during sex?
On “As long as the lighting’s mellow…”
Do you believe that humans are the most important animal species on Earth?
No “But we’re certainly the most destructive!”
Two people both like you. One is more fun, the other is more stable.
I’d play my nights and days away – FUN! “Even though I’m looking for something stable, it’s got to be fun!”
Do you believe in the power of prayer?
Yes “Although I don’t believe in a God, I think that if a person believes prayer will help, then it probably will. I think we have enormous power to influence our experience of life.”
How often do you keep your promises?
Whenever possible “It would have to be serious to make me cancel an arrangement.”
Is it a requirement that you communicate every day with your significant other (via phone, text, in person, whatever)?
Yes, unless otherwise specified “I think it’s very important to be in touch, unless it’s really not possible.”
If you had to name your greatest motivation in life thus far, what would it be?
Love “All you need is love. Nanananana!”
How many children would you ideally like to have?
1-2 “I’d definitely consider adopting.”
Your significant other is perfectly content with their minimum wage job and has no plans to look for more challenging/better paying work. Is this a problem?
No, I don’t mind. “As long as they’re happy and fulfilled.”
Your significant other has a hobby that you find boring. They’re busy doing whatever it is they like to do, and you’re bored. What do you do?
Go do something I like, alone “… probably after a bit of bugging for attention to be honest!”
Which of these options most closely describes what you’re looking for in your next relationship?
Someone to go out with “…and then go home with!”
Is it okay to answer your cell phone while out with a friend or on a date?
No, that’s just rude. “I’d only answer if I knew it was urgent/a very quick exchange. I don’t think mobiles should feature on dates.”
Are you happy with your life?
Yes “Happy, but there’s always room for improvement!”
Which makes for a better relationship?
Passion “Dedication is important, but if you don’t have passion, you may as well just be friends!”
If you don’t do anything at all for an entire day, how does that make you feel?
Bad “Tend to feel a bit guilty if I do nothing at all… However, doing nothing with someone else is fine, cos I can justify it as socialising!”
Have you smoked a cigarette in the last 6 months?
No “I really don’t like kissing smokers, so if it’s more than an occasional puff, it’s not gonna work (kissing is very important!!)”
What’s worse on a first date?
Nothing to talk about “At least you can still have a fun time if you can talk, but I wouldn’t continue to see someone if there was no attraction.”
Do you enjoy outdoor activities such as camping, hiking or fishing?
Yes “Well, I live on a boat, so I have to be outdoorsy! Happy to get my hands dirty, but I do like a warm bed at the end of the day…”
You’re dating someone new. You discover that they have a housemate the same gender as you. This:
Doesn’t faze you one bit “Flat-mate, fine. Sharing a room?? That would be weird….”
You’re up against a nearly impossible challenge. Your ideal partner…
stands back, but comforts you if you fail “Although, some support/help might be nice!”
Would you allow a pet to sleep on your bed?
Yes. “Depends what the pet is…!”
Which is better: sex without sleeping together or sleeping together without sex?
Sleeping “Sex with no cuddles is a bit cold…”
When texting with a potential partner, is use of proper grammar and spelling important to you?
Yes “It doesn’t have to be perfect, but text speak is annoying!”
Would you dump someone simply because they weren’t good at sex?
No “If the relationship was good otherwise, I’d be prepared to work on it…”
Do you like cats? Would you consider owning a cat as a pet?
Yes, I would love (or do own) a cat. “But I’m not sure it would be able to find its way home, as I move about!”
Would the idea of a quiet evening sitting together reading books ever appeal to you?
Yes “Though I tend to prefer to interact.”
Would you object to someone bringing a young child along on a first date?
Yes “That would be a bit weird…”
Would you consider having a relationship with someone who is very serious about a religion that is not mainstream?
No “I wouldn’t have a relationship with someone who was serious about any religion. It’s too fundamental a thing to disagree on.”
Could you date someone who was really messy?
Yes “I always tidy up when I have visitors, but have been known to pretend I can’t see the pile of dishes…”
Is foreplay necessary for good sex?
Yes “… but foreplay isn’t necessarily physical.”
About how long do you want your next relationship to last?
The rest of my life “But I’m willing to take my time finding the right person.”
Would it bother you if someone you are dating has a lot of close friends of the opposite sex?
No “That’s usually the case…”
Would you be willing to date a musician?
Of course! “Is there something I should know about musicians?!”
Do you and your ideal significant other enjoy making sarcastic jokes at each other’s expense, knowing that it’s all in good fun?
No, sarcasm doesn’t belong in a love relationship “But a bit of banter’s fine.”
Do you ever feel the need to get really drunk?
Never “…though I often feel the need to get tipsy!”